Here are a few practical pointers for getting teachers to listen and respond to your requests:
· Always use emotionally neutral language. Avoid words like “should,” “must,” and anything threatening.
· Let the words speak for themselves.
· Ask specific questions which may be answered in a few words.
· E-mail is faster, easier and more readily accessible than paper notes.
· Specify your preferred method of verbal communication. If you need a phone call, ask the teacher to call you at a time when you know you will be able to take the call without having the teacher leave a message Be sure to include your telephone number in the message.
· Avoid leaving telephone messages at a school. School offices are often manned by student monitors and messages may not reach the teacher's mailbox.
· Don't use confrontational language or threats. That approach may not only be counterproductive but it may also be illegal.
· Remember that your communication skills reflect on and ultimately influence your child's method of communication.
· If you’ve tried to contact a teacher and received no response after the second attempt, try calling a guidance counselor and explaining why you need to speak with the teacher. Counselors are more accustomed to working with parents and may be able to pass your message along.